What is going on in your family? Are there those repeated challenges in attitude, conversation and cooperation that just never seem to get resolved?
It could be that each of you has an attachment to being understood and accepted for who you are without taking into account the other person and their desire to have the same experience. This generates power positions and competition, rather than cooperation. How do you resolve this?
According to each family members age, there is a special cycle they are in… check out these cycles and see what each member is focused on and what special qualities they are learning at this age. Now you can begin to determine where each family member can pretty easily relate and cooperate with the others, or NOT!!!
Once you determine each family members cycle then you can begin to understand what each one needs in terms of support and acceptance in their individual classroom of life at this time. As each family member changes cycles, they too must adjust personally to the changes as well as the family dynamics adjusting around their change.
The number one lesson in life that is dramatically demonstrated in family dynamics… EVERYTHING in life is based on change. The family structure, is the closest and most familiar model, and therefore, many times may be the most challenging of all of your life experiences.
When you begin to understand your “family movie” and your part in it, you will begin to see these dynamics repeated everywhere in your life… work, relationships, etc. So when you want to change your “life movie”, the core dynamics of your life are influenced by the “family movie” and when you change the way you perceive yourself in this movie and all of the family members, you will change the foundation for all of your life experiences.